Toys are also the best teaching aids: 5 uses for toys!

Some time ago, I bought a "little giraffe" for my 3-year-old daughter, Qian Hui. Imagine a little girl who is more than 1 meter tall and sees her dad pulling a plush toy about 1.5 meters from the door. How excited and happy she is? There is no sign, the surprise is so sudden. She sometimes rides on the giraffe "Mercedes"; sometimes gives the giraffe a card or sunglasses; sometimes picks up the tiptoe to feed the giraffe "vegetables", "fruit"; sometimes let other small animals ride on the back of the giraffe to experience life ... I really regret that I didn't study painting when I was at school, or I could present you with a fun picture book.

The giraffe became her good friend. She has 100 friends who are shorter than her, but this friend is much taller than her. Before Qian Hui likes to pick up the toys in the storage box to the sofa to discuss the problems of the toys in kindergarten. When she tried to pick up the giraffe again and again, she smiled and she found that the big man was really different. The giraffe was pushed and pulled by Qian Hui, and finally came to the "conference" scene. Other toys are standing on the sofa, and this guy is still a few feet taller than others.

When the mother tells the baby, the naughty father will push the giraffe to the mother's side. Dad strokes the head of the giraffe, lowers the giraffe's neck, and gently adjusts the angle of the giraffe's neck, as if with the baby. Look at the picture book. When her mother looked up, she found two big eyes staring at her. She was too focused and screamed. At this time, Qian Hui comforted her mother. "Don't be afraid, mother, she is a giraffe! She doesn't eat meat!" Mom smiled and smiled very happy. Qian Hui has read 100 books before she was 3 years old, and now she can read it independently. When she was studying for herself, the giraffe was her classmate and she read the book with her; after a while she became her student, and the Huihui told the giraffes stories, knowledge, and reason... The giraffes were always focused, and the two were concentrated. The eyes stared earnestly over the head of Qian Hui.

The most interesting thing is that Qianhui offered to let the giraffe stand at the end of the bed and watch Qianhui slowly fall asleep. When he gets up every morning, he can see this big guy at first sight!

Although the giraffe is not true, Qian Hui does not feel sorry at all. She has already gained enough happiness and satisfaction from the company of the giraffe.

A lot of friends asked me where did the giraffe buy? They saw that Qianhui played so well that they felt the giraffe's magic. In fact, the giraffe is just an ordinary plush toy . There are a lot of attention to the choice and use of toys. I will share with you one or two today.

First, the selection of toy varieties - cultivate vision

Do boys and girls have to be different? I hope that the child can touch more toys because the toy trains the child's vision. I believe that children have the ability to self-screen, but at the beginning we should give him more varieties. Just as we prepare for the children in the week, the child should have more choices. Here we need to explain that the toy guides the vision and ability, and the clothing guides the gender and character. In terms of clothing, it is a big taboo not to be able to take a different dress and easily lead to gender inversion. Remember, don't just sell one or a type of toy (such as buying only a bear or just buying HelloKitty), which can lead to narrow interest.

Second, the timing of the toy - cultivate emotion

Is the toy the best reward? Wrong, toys are the best choice to convey emotions. I shared a common problem with everyone in the first book, "Children's Independence" and "Parents", that is, people often confuse love with satisfaction. Love is unconditional, and satisfaction is conditional. Love is initiated from the parents' side. Don't mention the conditions. For example, when I buy this giraffe for my child, I want to give her a surprise in life. I don't need her to pay for the giraffe. This kind of gift is a common love. Expressions, in addition to companionship, communication, encouragement, hugs, etc. - In fact, love needs to be expressed, and it needs to be expressed in a way that children can understand. Satisfaction refers to the requirements put forward by the child. At this time, it is necessary to take the form of negotiation, and to discuss the conditions with the child bargaining, and cannot be satisfied or satisfied immediately.

Third, a variety of toys play - training thinking

The more toys, the better? Of course not. When children are 0-2 years old, children can have a good impression on many toys. We cultivate a wide range of children's interests. After the age of 2, the toy began to transition to the teaching aid. In the story of the giraffe I talked about earlier, Qian Hui can play so deeply and harmoniously with the giraffe because I had a similar guide to her before. "One more play" is the toy theory that I put forward in "The parent-child relationship that makes children happy." Your development of toy play will stimulate your child's thinking and stimulate your child's imagination and creativity. I often talk about the example of "variable mats". I have made many changes to the children's crawling mats, making the children feel magical and fun: I took the mats on the boxes, dog sheds, red carpets and tunnels... ... a variety of toys can really improve the child's thinking ability, while allowing children to pay more attention to the surrounding, more love the environment.

Fourth, simulation scenario training - training social

I invented more than 120 kinds of parent-child games before Qian Hui 3 years old. One of the games I think is very classic, that is, "simulation class." When Qian Hui was about 2 years old, I had the consciousness to train her expressiveness and sense of order, and these need to be accumulated by experience. In addition to taking her to see some big friends, children, it is the way to simulate the classroom. I came to play the teacher and let Qianhui and other toys be students. When Qianhui and the toy are taking classes together, Qianhui seems very active. Of course, the toy will not speak. In this way, Qianhui is willing to answer the "teacher" question, face the teacher, raise his hand, listen to the teacher and other good habits. They are all trained in this game. In addition to simulating classroom accidents, I also used toys to simulate various occasions for safety education and normative education, all of which have achieved good results. The child has mastered the social experience in playing with the toy, so that she can get along with the friends better.

Fifth, manage your own toys - training norms

Toys let children find their sense of control, which is very important, it is even the source of self-confidence. Then we just use this as an opportunity to cultivate children's habits. How to pack your own toys, how to put your own toys, how to deal with your old toys... These aspects require parents to teach children in a demonstration form. Seeing how a child treats his or her own toy can reflect the child's upbringing, character, and habits.

Toys are used to play and are also the best teaching aids! Let's play with toys!

(Text / Liu Yonghe parent-child education expert "let the child happy parent-child relationship" author "monkey dad" Liu Yonghe)